When the mood is different.

In psychology, we were taught a lot about the mind, emotions, mood and yeah mood swings and as a person I realize how our emotions can make or break us. Before you continue reading, check the picture.

Now let's talk. Emotions huh!  Y'all know how that goes especially when you are in a relationship. It goes high and low. You might be having a bad day and your partner wants you getting excited over something nice that happened and when you don't show the excitement, they feel something is wrong.

Hmm!  Ladies, we love attention you know and sometimes we make a big mistake by equating the emotions or response of our partner with the love they have for us.  Girl, give the brother some space, cut the slacks. He might be thinking of his business or something and you want to be hearing only love talk, well talk won't always pay bills you know.... I think I am guilty too. Lolz

Well,  I think if people can master their emotions and don't let it be judge, when they understand that it's not every time the other person is in the mood for what you want,  then probably, there will be less quarrels in the home.

People breakup and divorce for many silly reasons but I was reading Gary Chapman's four seasons of marriage last week and realized that it's not always going to be easy,  there will be the very sweet time and the not so sweet time but you got to work it out and don't look for the shortest cut out.

If you think your partner is not worth your time, if you think they are bad people and you think the lady or guy in the office making passes at you or that one you have allowed into your friend zone forming emotional attachment with is better off. Check it, you might be on the road to having a very complicated life.

So if you are single but in a serious relationship, don't breakup like a chicken. Make it work except you are sure it's not God's will for you. Let God take the lead so you both can make it to the altar in grand style. If you are married and you totally feel you have made a mistake, hmm!  Divorce is never the first option. Try to get help, read books go for counseling and most importantly, pray and let God know you want your marriage to work. Miracles still happen.

So when you get to the point where the tingles and sparks have disappeared, when you are not in the mood to talk, what keeps you going is the commitment you made. The meme inspired this write up. I loved it and love the writer. I hope you keep reading my blog, many exciting stuff will be posted for your edification .  Thanks for visiting. Happy New week.

Radiant Pheobe © 2016.

When you are not in the mood.

In psychology, we were taught a lot about the mind, emotions, mood and yeah mood swings and as a person I realize how our emotions can make or break us. Before you continue reading, check the picture.

Now let's talk. Emotions huh!  Y'all know how that goes especially when you are in a relationship. It goes high and low. You might be having a bad day and your partner wants you getting excited over something nice that happened and when you don't show the excitement, they feel something is wrong.

Hmm!  Ladies, we love attention you know and sometimes we make a big mistake by equating the emotions or response of our partner with the love they have for us.  Girl, give the brother some space, cut the slacks. He might be thinking of his business or something and you want to be hearing only love talk, well talk won't always pay bills you know.... I think I am guilty too. Lolz

Well,  I think if people can master their emotions and don't let it be judge, when they understand that it's not every time the other person is in the mood for what you want,  then probably, there will be less quarrels in the home.

People breakup and divorce for many silly reasons but I was reading Gary Chapman's four seasons of marriage last week and realized that it's not always going to be easy,  there will be the very sweet time and the not so sweet time but you got to work it out and don't look for the shortest cut out.

If you think your partner is not worth your time, if you think they are bad people and you think the lady or guy in the office making passes at you or that one you have allowed into your friend zone forming emotional attachment with is better off. Check it, you might be on the road to having a very complicated life.

So if you are single but in a serious relationship, don't breakup like a chicken. Make it work except you are sure it's not God's will for you. Let God take the lead so you both can make it to the altar in grand style. If you are married and you totally feel you have made a mistake, hmm!  Divorce is never the first option. Try to get help, read books go for counseling and most importantly, pray and let God know you want your marriage to work. Miracles still happen.

So when you get to the point where the tingles and sparks have disappeared, when you are not in the mood to talk, what keeps you going is the commitment you made. The meme inspired this write up. I loved it and love the writer. I hope you keep reading my blog, many exciting stuff will be posted for your edification .  Thanks for visiting. Happy New week.

Radiant Pheobe © 2016.

And it came to pass...

Rise and shine people, it's a beautiful day today and we should be grateful for it,  say a quick thank you to God for the gift of life and the fact that you are reading this post tells me something... It tells me that you are not blind.  Even if everything is not working at least you got your eyes and your eyes gives you sight and the sight gives you vision.

Vision a vast word used among the church circles but lately, I Am learning that it is not just by the things you see when your eyes are closed but those you see even with your eyes open.

Your desires, your purpose, your aspirations, your assignment. You should not just sleep and expect dreams to come through,wake up and live your dreams,  make adequate plans,  do not be afraid to fail because the fear of failure is the failure itself.

I thought so low of myself before,  you might roll your eyes and don't believe it probably because you think otherwise about me.  Well I really still under estimate myself at times but one thing I have done so far is to give myself an evidence of doubt and tell myself it wouldn't hurt to try.

Mumsy used to say to us those days,  she is a complete African mother trust me. When we are celebrating being among the first five or first ten in class, she gives you the look and says "why did you not come first,  does the person that came first have two heads,  is he not a person like you? " I never could wrap my mind around the concept but she always wanted us to be the best.

Now what am I saying self,  I can't say I have my life all figured out but there is this peace you have knowing that there is a Lord over your life who knows your end from the beginning. Yeah,  don't say she is going all religious again.  Well I can't help it but acknowledge He who is the author of this life and who gives grace and beauty.

God is gracious and trust me, He makes the pepper red in due time. What is it that your hand has found doing, do it with all your heart. Don't start doing it to impress anybody. Just do it with passion,  because soon that passion will pay off and where you never thought you would be, well about that... You have to start thinking you would be great because as a man thinks so is it.

Your present condition may fall short of what your mind sees but then the journey of a thousand miles starts with a step. When you are old and wrinkled, when you have come to the evening time of your life,  you can call your children and children's children and declare these words "AND IT CAME TO PASS...."

Fill in the blank spaces now that you have the heart then live out the story you want to pass down as a legacy. It's Saturday,  make the most of your weekend. Love,  live,  laugh. God bless you.

Radiant Pheobe © 2016.

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© Radiant Pheobe 2016.

*HOW TO UNLOCK YOUR CREATIVITY BY Babs Ogundimu

🌅 *MORNING RECIPE*

Did you know that there are two major things that can stimulate creative thinking?

The first is intensely desired goals, and the second is pressing problems. Your creative capacities need something to hone in on and your job is to provide it.

*A Continual Stimulus for Ideas*
Intensely desired goals, clearly defined with detailed plans for their accomplishment act as a continual stimulus for ideas to achieve them.

To trigger your imagination, write out a clear description of your ideal end result or goal. Be clear about the goal, be flexible about the process. Think about it, visualize it as realized over and over. Project your mind forward to the picture of the realized goal and then look back to the present.

Think on paper. Make a plan and then work on the plan, updating it, changing it, adding to it as you think of new ways to work toward the goal. The more clearly defined and keenly desired your goals, the more of your natural creativity will be released for goal attainment.

*The Proper Approach to Problems*
The second stimulant to creativity is pressing problems. The key to idea generation when you face a problem is to approach the problem confidently, expectantly, with the attitude that there exists a logical, practical solution just waiting to be found.

The most creative people have a relaxed attitude of confident expectancy that causes their minds to function in original and imaginative ways.

Define your problems clearly in writing. Accurate diagnosis is half the cure. Sometimes you will find that you are dealing with a "cluster problem," one that is made up of several smaller problems. Your job is to sort them out and then go to work on each one separately.

In many cluster problems, there is a core issue surrounded by a lot of symptoms. Creative thinking requires that you separate the core issue, and then focus on resolving that before worrying about the smaller problems.

To your creativity,

*#IAMBabsOgundimu*
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